Introducing the Sleep Fairy

My hubby and I got married in May in finally moved in together. Before this Jae-Lyn and I lived at my mothers house and shared a room (but not a bed). The move was obviously a big change for all of us and Jae-Lyn seemed to be ok all in all, except when it came to bed time.

 

Before she would happily sleep in her own bed by herself and suddenly she couldn’t fall asleep unless I was lying in the bed with her. When she was finally asleep I would climb into my own bed and would then be woken up between 1-5 times a night by my lovely daughter.  She was sharing a room with her cousin so I didn’t want to make a bedtime a huge fighting crying game as this poor boy also needed to get some sleep.

 

A few weeks ago Jae-Lyn FINALLY moved into her own room. We made it all pink and pretty for her, got her a double bunk and she loves it. We were hoping that this would encourage her to want to sleep at night, but sadly no. This just made her want her mommy in her bed more than ever. 

 

I have never been a fan of the crying method and my daughter is all about rewards and competitions so we came up with a few beauties:

 

  • A morning and bedtime routine reward chart. Both charts run for a week at a time and she got to choose the prize at the end of the week for a perfect chart. She chose to be surprised. 
  • A little sleepy helper called the Sleep Fairy. She only visits on nights when Jae sleeps by herself and sometimes leaves a present behind. Jae absolutely LOVES the Sleep Fairy. And yesterday the clever little fairy sent Jae the following letter:

Dear Jae-Lyn

Congratulations on having your own bedroom. I have come to visit you during the night and it looks beautiful. Thank you for leaving the light on in your little Hello Kitty house for me and leaving treats by the bed. It was lovely staying over with you. 

Your mommy told me that you are getting the hang of sleeping in your big girl bed and I wanted to give you something to help you. Tonight when you go to bed there will be a present at the top of your cupboard. This very special present that I have chosen for you can only be opened after you sleep by yourself in your bed for 5 nights in a row. Your mommy is going to put a star on the wrapping paper for every night that you get it right.

I am very excited to see those stars go up. And I will pop in tonight to see how you are doing.

Love, The Sleep Fairy

P.S. If you could leave some biscuits out for me again that would be wonderful

xxxx

 

This method seems to be working wonders for us. Jae gets so excited about the sleep fairy and has even ‘seen’ her a few times (although I’m sure she was dreaming)

And I must say that seeing the excitement and amazement in her eyes makes it all worthwhile. What I wouldn’t give to be a child again.

The reward chart that we use can be downloaded here and is completely customizable. I found it on All Things Simple.

 

Have you come up with any tricks or used something similar to get your child to bed? I would love to here them.

 

 

The Fabulous Fours……….

The title of this post is a bit misleading as the F word that I would have liked to use seems a bit inappropriate. My lovely daughter turned 4 in February and its all kind of been downhill from there. Here is a list of what I am going through at the moment:

 

1. She does not want to do anything. She will cry for a toy that is in another room, but won’t physically get up to fetch it. And I hear MOM, MOM, MOM, MOM, MOM, MOM until said toy is given to her.

2. Her answer to anything is NO, I don’t want to, I really don’t want to, I really really don’t want to.

3. I don’t want (insert dinner dish here) for supper. I want (insert another dinner dish here) rather. And then hear ‘But why can’t you make it for me?’ Followed by a tantrum when I refuse to make said dish.

4. Bedtime has gone from being as easy as pie to an absolute nightmare. By the time I get into my bed I am convinced that a vein inside my brain is going to explode. And I walk around feeling just like stressed Eric for the most part.

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This list goes on and on and on and I have come to one conclusion. The effing fours are terrible because your child has started to realize that he/she can make his/her own decisions. He/She does not feel that he/she has to listen to everything that Mom or Dad said because in his/her mind they know better. Little 4 year old’s are like miniature teenagers. But I cannot only put her bad behavior on her age.

 

She is going through a lot of changes at home and it is obvious that she doesn’t do very well with change. Instead of directing her feelings toward whatever is upsetting her she directs it towards me. In May we moved out of my Mom’s house and into our own house. And it is very clear that she misses her Granny like mad. Even though we still see each other a lot. And her Uncle and his Fiance were living with us and got married on Saturday and have moved out. She is extremely close to them and is a bit heartbroken that they are not there anymore. She will also see them everyday as we live very close to each other. So instead of telling me she is sad because of these things she is cross with me because of the fact that I hugged the dog before her, or I held another baby at her cousins birthday party. It’s kind of heartbreaking. But we are making the best of it and trying to make it as fun and exciting as possible for her. 

 

Any other moms with 4 year old’s going through something similar? I would love to hear some feedback on what works for you? I am going to try different reward charts and will let you know how those go……..

 

But in the meantime can someone please pour me some wine…………………………….